Experiences need to be honestly reflected upon and each one with the lens of the authentic self that is who you really are and are to become.
How is this done? By consciously challenging and refuting past conditioned judgements and ascertaining the true nature of the experience.
Is this really me, my authentic self or am I reacting this way because of something somebody told me?
Regardless, does it serve me to have this belief and behave or even think like this? Does it serve me to think the thoughts that I'm thinking and fuel the habitual patterns of thinking that I have developed and entrained into my psyche?